Why Men Love Maids

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Two famous men are currently involved in sex scandals involving maids. Arnold Schwarzenegger and Dominique Strauss-Kahn, also not to forget that hindi film actor,

 

we're talking about dominance, the driving force behind many a fetish.

"The maid is a servant, so there's this whole thing of being in charge of somebody else and being able to tell them what to do," observes sexual commentator David Steinberg, author of Divas of San Francisco. "For white guys, there's often an issue of racial dominance built into the situation, because maids these days are often not white.

"Whether it's the boss and the secretary, the doctor and the nurse, or the homeowner and the maid, you've got a white male who's in a position of authority over a non-white woman, and there's a lot of sexual energy that goes on around that in general," Steinberg says.

 

You know her name. She knows yours. But she's not here not to socialize. She is here to be paid, this cleaner of your private places who is neither you nor your spouse but a semi-stranger whom you might not even recognize, much less greet, out of uniform. 

She sees the skid marks on your sheets. 

"It's also about men wanting to look at women on their knees. Men want to know that women are there to clean up after them. You only have to look at porn to figure that out."

 

Does Daily sex increases chances of pregnancy ? Pregnancy Against All Odds

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Q: Is male infertility a serious threat?

A: It accounts for 40 per cent of all infertility, primarily due to sperm defects. Sometimes this is brought on by external factors like tight innerwear, very hot baths, smoking, exposure to radiation and toxic chemicals. Sometimes there's a physiological basis-diabetes, hypothyroidism or genetic aberrations.

Q: What about infertility in women?

A: I see many young women who show signs and symptoms of polycystic ovaries, a condition associated with metabolic disorders and obesity. From job pressure to vehicular pollution, postponing parenthood to sexual liberation, fast food to sedentary lifestyle, all have been linked to infertility.

Conception Timeline

A: woman's fertility peaks between age 27 and 34. That's the best time to have the first baby. The best time to get pregnant? Watch out for the narrow window of time during ovulation, two weeks into the menstrual cycle. The life of a human egg is about 36 hours, while a sperm can survive in a woman's body for about 48 hours.

30% more chances of conception every month if a couple engages in unprotected sex at least three times a week.

Myth : Daily sex increases chances of pregnancy

Reality : No it doesn't. It may, in fact, bring down sperm count on the day of ovulation.

Source: The Complete Guide to Becoming Pregnant. Dr. Firuza R. Parikh. Random House India. 2011

When Dr Firuza Parikh came back from the US to set up India's first private in vitro fertilisation (IVF) centre at Mumbai's Jaslok Hospital in the early '90s, her colleagues at the Yale School of Medicine were stunned: "Infertility in India?"

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Sex is an important part of marriage couples need to make sex a priority. If they are too tired to have sex at night, do it in the morning

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Researchers found that though, initially, couples can expect to have sex more than four times a week, after three years of life as man and wife, most couples are lucky to have sex just once every seven days.

 

In reality, sexual relationship is essential and a healthy part of a marriage. Sex needs commitment and connectivity and that is where most young people find themselves lacking the adequate energy or inclination," opines Dr Rajiv Anand, marriage counsellor. According to him, it is not the sexual act that loses novelty or attraction after marriage but the approach of the people involved. 

So what's the solution? "If it's a case of physical fatigue, couples should engage in scheduled sex. They must plan weekend getaways or make arrangements to leave the child with a babysitter or relatives and plan a night out where they could probably get home early from work and then just concentrate on spending time with each other. If it's an issue of emotional distancing, communication is the only solution. Couples need to talk things out with each other in a non-toxic way," says Dr Minnu. 

 

Dr Anjali Chhabria, psychiatrist and psychotherapist opines that it is more important to get down to the root cause of the issue than just search for quick fix solutions. "Sex is an important part of marriage and the lack of it could indicate issues in the marriage. A declining sex life is a symptom, it's just the tip of the iceberg. One needs to find answers to why there is no sex? Is it because there is no chemistry in the relationship or is there no relationship at all? Are the partners too tired or stressed out? Does one partner feel that she or he is no longer attractive to the other? Is one's spouseattracted to someone else? If it's just boredom, couples need to make sex a priority. If they are too tired to have sex at night, do it in the morning. If lack of privacy is the issue, couple need to make time for themselves. Most importantly, couples need to tell each other what they want. Your partner is not a magician to magically figure out your wants and needs," she explains. 

rachel.fernandes@timesgroup.com